Summer holidays after separation

Take five guide - Summer holidays after separation: a guide for co-parents

   The summer holidays can be a joyful time for children — but for separated or divorced parents, they can also be a source of stress and logistical challenges. From agreeing on who has the children when, to organising holiday clubs, trips abroad, and splitting costs, the six-week break can test even the most amicable co-parenting relationships.

At Thrings, our Family Law team regularly supports separated parents with forward planning and practical advice. Here’s how to navigate the summer holidays smoothly and keep the focus on what really matters: your children’s wellbeing.

 

1. Plan ahead and put it in writing

The earlier you start talking about the summer schedule, the better. Waiting until the last minute can cause unnecessary tension and limit your options — particularly when it comes to booking clubs or holidays.

Things to discuss together:

  • Who will have the children on which days/weeks?
  • What childcare is needed and when?
  • Are either of you planning a holiday abroad?
  • Who will drop off/pick up from activities?

Agreeing on a written plan — even informally — can avoid misunderstandings and make life easier for everyone.


2. Taking the children on holiday

If you’re planning to take your child abroad and you share parental responsibility with your ex-partner, you must get their permission before travelling. Without it, you could be accused of child abduction — even if it’s just a week in Spain. Ideally, get consent in writing.

Share travel details, including dates, flights, accommodation. Consider drawing up a parenting agreement if travel is likely to be an ongoing issue. If permission is refused without good reason, a court application may be necessary — so don’t leave this too late.


3. Who pays for what?

Holiday clubs, childcare, day trips, new clothes, meals out… the summer break can be expensive. For separated parents, this often raises the question of who pays for what especially if one parent is already paying child maintenance.

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but some general principles apply:

  • Child maintenance usually covers everyday costs, not extras like holidays
  • Where possible, costs should be shared proportionately to income
  • Keep receipts and communicate openly about shared expenses

If financial arrangements are unclear or disputed, a solicitor can help you reach a fair agreement.


4. Be flexible — but be child focused

Even the best-laid plans can go off track: illness, travel disruptions, or unexpected work commitments can all mean you need to adjust the schedule.

Try to stay child-focused and flexible, asking “what’s best for them?”

If your child is old enough, include them in discussions about how they’d like to spend their time — but avoid placing them in the middle of adult disagreements.


5. When to seek legal advice

If you’re finding it hard to agree on arrangements or feel the other parent is being unreasonable, it may be time to get legal advice.

At Thrings, our Family Law team can help you:

  • Understand your rights and responsibilities
  • Formalise a holiday agreement
  • Apply for a Specific Issue Order (e.g. permission to take a child abroad)
  • Mediate and resolve disputes amicably, without court if possible

 

Do you need help navigating the holidays?

Contact Thrings family law team to arrange a confidential discussion.

 

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